Because like the way I the way I dealt with that is I just passed it off to my wife and I said, look, she’s not a door. S1: So you have like that valuable male’s perspective that might be able to help her understand what she’s really up against it at work to walk or to talk about it. And I could make I could squeeze time into it. How did you know? Because I was a horny teenager. If he wanted to say or he could make type work. I said to my wife, I said, look, oh, she can hear this, but he’s just not into her. And the more I was listening, the more I just kind of was. Like, I’m not going to presume that, like, you know, he’s he’s got time for me or whatever. And I my wife was like, well, you know, maybe he’s really busy or, you know, you know, maybe you should talk to him about how you feel. And we could tell her heart was really breaking and she was getting upset and she kept making excuses for him. And then he kind of started really pulling back and didn’t seem to have time for her anymore. I was told, Cameron, that we had this interesting thing where there was a young man who she’d been really interested in and she thought was interested in her. And, you know, just so that she kind of goes into that sort of armed. But I think the other thing, too, is like just maybe understanding a little bit the male experience and like how males kind of view this and can view this in the like, the cultural pressure that males have around dating and sex and conquest. So sometimes think like she might take me a little bit more seriously if I shared with some of this. S4: So I think some of it is that my daughter and I are a little bit more similar personality style. S1: So if your wife kind of has a handle on everything, like what can you tell your daughter that her mother can? But if we could if I could get her to her very late teens or early 20s before that happens, I’ll be ecstatic.
Yes, she’s probably in a mess around with alcohol and drugs down the road, you know.
But like, my big goal was just to stave it off as far into the future as possible. S4: You know, she’ll get there, she’ll she’ll do something that, you know, like steps outside of that. So, like, help her get the most out of it with the least risk. So I got, you know, like I think I just kind of got over it like this is going to happen. You know, there’s no pictures, video or otherwise that are floating around anywhere that will come back and bite her in the butt. And so how do I help her have this experience where she doesn’t expose herself to a lot of gossip. It was like, OK, well, this is gonna happen. The more that I began to hear about her peers through the grapevine, the small school culture were part of, you know, she’d share she’d dish a story about a classmate that was, you know, very sexually adventurous and maybe, you know, racing way ahead of her peers or whatever. But I think I think what happened for me is. And I think I kind of pushed it off more. But of course, she’s still my little baby, you know. S4: I think, you know, when she was a little or a girl like ten or eleven, I think before she hit puberty, I knew it would happen intellectually. Did you always feel this way or did any part of you feel uncomfortable with the idea of her one day having sex? S1: Then I kind of had that image in my head of the overbearing father who when his is going on a date, will like bring the shotgun to the door and throw on the date to be like, bring her back by 9:00 or X-Y.